Not too loose and not too tight, got it
I know how to make adjustments my problem seems to be I can adjust it to take away the wobble but then the bike feels like is wallowing around when riding in a straight line. Or I can loosen the nut off an 1/8 turn and it stops the bike from steering on its own but has the tiniest hint of a wobble now and again.
I guess maybe it is just finicky and will take some adjusting but from everything I have watched and read, they all say just adjust it until the bars move freely side to side and no play when pulling on the forks and it's good (which would indicate that there is room for error and it doesn't need some precise adjustment).
For what it is worth, mine is just barely tighter than finger tight does that sound like it is in the ballpark?