January 7th, 2012, 09:24 PM | #1 |
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Anyone one else very long-term single?
Does it bother you? How do you feel about it long-term? I was just thinking about it today. I broke up with my last girlfriend in 2004 so it's coming on 8 years that I've been single. I have asked out a few girls in that time, but none were interested. I've asked my closest friends their opinion, but they all said they couldn't think of anyone who'd be interesting in dating me. My sister sometimes seems more bothered by this than I am, and a while ago she did buy me a six-month subscription to Match.com, but I never got a single response from anyone there. I generally don't worry much about it. I don't think there's anything wrong with being completely alone your entire life until you die. I'm certainly not convinced that marriage or relationships actually make anyone happier. What's starting to bother me, though, is that I'll never know for sure if I would have been happier with a relationship. I'm turning 30 this year, and noticing that most girls my age are married with kids has got me thinking about this.
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January 7th, 2012, 10:06 PM | #2 |
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You are not alone in this. My last girlfriend was back in the Army in like 2002 (what a mistake that one was). For the longest while it didn't bother me because partly it was my choice because I felt I wasn't in a stable enough life to be worrying about a relationship. But here I am at age 35, seeing that all my old classmates are married, divorced, have kids, etc. Yet here I am having never even been engaged.
Sometimes you look back and wonder if that makes a big time loser or something. You can't really answer it cause it's not really a question that has an easy answer. There are times I get extremely lonely and wish I had someone (especially like the someone I had back in the 90's that was a best friend and sometimes girlfriend). Now I look around and wonder if it's too late, is anyone even possibly interested, where could I even start, and hundreds of other questions on either side of the relationship/no-relationship debate in my head. There are times I regret being alone and wish I could go back and change a couple of things in my life to maybe have at least had that chance. I do however feel that we need someone to share life's journey with. Whether people wish to believe it or not, we are a social based creature. We thrive on human contact and the feelings of being loved and appreciated. We decline and die when we go for too long w/o any signs of affection or caring about us. |
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January 7th, 2012, 10:41 PM | #3 | |
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I've never had a girlfriend or been close to having one. albeit, I'm only nineteen, I don't see what the big deal is regardless of age. I have no intention to get married and I'm certainly not in a position to have a girlfriend at the moment even if I desired one. There's pros and cons of marriage let alone having a significant other. Personally, I think the cons outweigh the pros - especially for the former.
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January 7th, 2012, 11:28 PM | #4 |
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I just turned 27 and I'm beginning to feel the approach of the big three-O. You probably had some of the same thoughts as me about what you've done in life so far and where you are headed. My advice is just don't. It sounds to me like you are doing just fine. As long as you are happy and you have people in your life, put any doubt out of your mind and enjoy your life. Being in a relationship and having kids don't make miserable people happy. 50% divorce rate clearly attests to that. I was contently alone for a long time before meeting my current girlfriend of three years. Like you, I didn't see anything wrong with going through life alone and I wasn't looking to meet anyone. But it had to happen when it did and it opened me up as a person and I can honestly say that I'm a happier person, not because I'm in a relationship, but because the life experience made me a better person. You can't force a relationship to happen, so be patient and don't get jaded. Be open, be the best you, and go through life doing things that make you happy. Before you know it, you'll find the right person. I truly believe that. Good luck to you.
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January 8th, 2012, 10:49 AM | #5 |
So, where's the reverse?
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Just look on the positive side guys, at least Kim Kardashian and Katy Perry are both available now
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January 8th, 2012, 08:14 PM | #6 |
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I think the main issue for me is that I know I want to raise a child. I see my friends and my sister having kids, and the time I spend with their kids is some of the most enriching experiences I've had. I want one, too. I just don't feel the same about getting a girlfriend.
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January 10th, 2012, 06:59 PM | #7 |
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Ever think about moving?
Here's the complete list from The Advocate: 1. Salt Lake City, Utah 2. Orlando, Fla. 3. Cambridge, Mass. 4. Fort Lauderdale, Fla. 5. Seattle 6. Ann Arbor, Mich. 7. St. Paul-Minneapolis, Minn. 8. Knoxville, Tenn. 9. Atlanta 10. Grand Rapids, Mich. 11. Little Rock, Ark. 12. Portland, Ore. 13. Austin, Texas 14. Long Beach, Calif. 15. Denver 16. Washington 17. New Orleans 18. San Francisco 19. Pittsburgh 20. Salem, Ore. 21. Madison, Wis. 22. Eugene, Ore. 23. Oakland, Calif. 24. Boston 25. Kansas City, Mo. Forget San Francisco (18th) or New York (not even on the list) — the gayest city in the U.S. is Salt Lake City, Utah, according to The Advocate, the gay and lesbian newsmagazine.
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January 10th, 2012, 11:55 PM | #8 |
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I think you read a bit too far into what I was saying... That's not what I meant.
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January 11th, 2012, 05:09 AM | #9 |
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January 11th, 2012, 01:56 PM | #10 |
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find a chick with a kid or two, they are usually desperate... hahaha
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January 11th, 2012, 02:51 PM | #11 |
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Does it matter if they're still married?
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January 11th, 2012, 06:38 PM | #12 |
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January 12th, 2012, 09:05 AM | #13 |
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Statistically speaking, single men live longer, happier lives, while married men live shorter.
Live it up man!
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January 12th, 2012, 09:25 AM | #14 |
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if you are looking for something more than just sex, yes. lol
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January 12th, 2012, 05:14 PM | #15 |
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I have been single for a few years now and have had the same thoughts recently. I only find being single a hassle when in need of some help - like someone to walk the dog while I spend some time at the track. But then again, I'm 38 and have already paid for two women to go to school before deciding that they are not worth the hassle in the long run - lived with both for a couple of years, but never put a "ring on it". And I find most people to be pitifully dumb - that makes it harder. I have lots of toys though, and no complains when I come home with another. Guess I'm just a selfish bastard.....
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January 12th, 2012, 05:52 PM | #16 |
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Marriage in the United States is in pretty bad condition. And I don't see it getting any better.
We (America) have spent the last 30 years trying to empower women, by giving them as much freedom, opportunity, power and status as any man ever had. We thought, "This has to be a good thing, right? What could possibly go wrong?" But, if you're really serious about taking on the challange of a modern marriage, here's a piece of wisdom I really wish somebody had given me before I got married. Here it is: When it comes to picking a woman you absolutely have to find one who had (or still has) a very good relationship with her father. The test of a father-daughter relationship is whether she still loves him and communicates with him and spends time with him after she moves out of her parent's home. That's the woman you want. Believe me when I tell you that if that element is missing from your woman's psyche you're headed for trouble. I've done about 17 years of research on this and have found it to be true. I know there are a lot of other variables involved in a marriage, but the father thing is truly a major cornerstone of a good one. |
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January 12th, 2012, 08:34 PM | #18 |
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I see how choosing poorly has worked out for almost all of the guys at work... they are paying tons of money in child support to at least 1 or 2 women every month, and they really dont make that much... One of them got mad because I said I wanted to buy something and I could afford it in a year or so, and they couldnt understand how I who makes the same amount as them and have a wife and kid can afford things. (Im still hella poor) Its simple. My wife works, I work, and the biggest thing is I DONT PAY 1000 a month in CHILD SUPPORT!!
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January 12th, 2012, 11:12 PM | #21 |
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Gayness. Not there is anything wrong with it. i have had a few gay friendsi have gone on vacation with them and their spouse and invited them to y straight friends.. As long as they respect i'm straight we are cool. Most are good people, just different.My frind Mark took me to places in Boston I didn't know existed.
On a different note, I meet alot of girls at the gym. I used to met up with ladies at football and soccer practice and game but everyones grew up. Meeting girls is easy, getting rid of them is hard.
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January 12th, 2012, 11:15 PM | #22 |
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Friends with benefits is the way to go utill you meet someone who has the wow factor.
Rents are good if you don;t know how to even approach a girl. Remember to still treat them with respect and like a lady.
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Dont friends with benefits have pretty good wow factors.
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January 13th, 2012, 12:12 AM | #26 |
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My friendly advice is to work on developing new friendships, and forget about immediate romantic aspirations. Join a group, meet new people with the goal of getting friends, and by opening up those new people, you'll find someone. And by developing deeper friendships I think you might find someone more likely to stick around long term. You ever volunteer? Good way to meet good hearted people. (And girls who might take pity on you ). Seriously, though, find a group and join. And if that doesn't work, go teach English in China or Vietnam or Phillipines or anywhere ending in "Stan." I lived in China (as a married man who isn't likely to be confused with Tom Cruise) and I was fighting off the women, constantly having to flash the wedding ring. Well educated, beautiful women who see individuality in a Western guy and the chance to settle in the U.S. as an attractive option to fairly restrictive, traditional societies that may limit roles for women. Two friends I worked with ended up happily married to very nice girls with advanced degrees.
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January 14th, 2012, 08:27 AM | #29 |
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I'm gonna start this with, I love my wife, really. But I don't think there's anything wrong with being single and it certainly has it's appeals to me. My friends Uncle has been single forever and is now in his 50's. He has a great life. Has as many hobbies as he wants, gets to do whatever he wants whenever he wants. There's something to be said for that.
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January 14th, 2012, 09:31 AM | #30 | |
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January 14th, 2012, 12:27 PM | #31 |
So, where's the reverse?
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January 14th, 2012, 01:01 PM | #32 |
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If you buy one of those girls from the Philippines, can you rent them out?
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January 14th, 2012, 01:45 PM | #33 |
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Haven't had one (a gf ) ever since coming over to the States, it's been 2 years now. Me and my ex agreed the long distance relationship thing was bound to fail but I wish we were still together. There is nothing that can destroy a man's mojo (Austin Power reference) than moving to a land where the women are completely different, in attitude and psyche, than the one's you were familiar with. Just turned 22 so I think I have some time to unravel the mysteries of the inner workings of the American female If I should fail in my mission...there's always the "mail-order-wife" option available
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January 15th, 2012, 01:03 AM | #34 |
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Yea it's exactly like a time share
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January 15th, 2012, 09:44 AM | #35 |
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I actually just had a very similar discussion last night. As someone who's been happily single for all 24 of my years, I can say that I really don't feel like it's something EVERYONE needs in life. I'd be lying if I said I've never entertained the idea of a romantic relationship, but I've never been actively looking, and the encounters that I have had always leave me realizing I'm so much more content just being a singular me. I mean, sex isn't hard to come by- even moreso when you're single, and I have plenty of friends who I can relate to on a personal level without ever sleeping with, so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. I've known plenty of people who make quite an effort to live the life expected of them by society that's quite against their personal nature by getting married and having kids and living to support that, but they're consistently horrible parents and miserable people. Not to say that's the case for everyone, of course, but I know that lifestyle doesn't suit my personality, and I have no interest in trying to accommodate it. Maybe I'll meet someone down the line who will completely change my mind, but I won't ever settle just for the sake of not being alone.
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January 20th, 2012, 08:42 AM | #37 |
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I think I'm offended, but I'm only half filipina so I'm just half offended? ha.
How come none of the ladies have nothing to say on the topic? Are all of them with someone?! Aiya... -_-! I'm going on almost a year now, but by choice. I don't have a need for a partner and whenever there's a moment of loneliness, well I get by with self abuse.
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Now that I've read yours, I agree with you that everyone doesn't need to be with someone. I'm just not sure that's neccessarily the case for most folks. You've never had the urge to be with someone as a couple?
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