So I left my GF :(

Rayme · September 25th, 2009, 08:57 PM

It`s about 1 am and half drunk..typing from the parent`s home on their old pentium 2, and I feel like emptying my heart out cause well I just went through my first real break-up in my life at 27 years old (I would classify my past relations as minor compared to this..).

I`ve been with this girl for almost 3.5 years, we bought a house together..and since about some time ago, knew this wouldn`t end good, that it wasn`t how I liked it to be...so tonight I let the cat outta the bag.

I feel like a monster ripping someone`s life appart like that, I know she was still in love with me, it was hard to go with the discussion..sharing a house and multiple common friend is just making it harder..but i got to keep telling myself it`s for the better and everybody goes through that. I`m somewhat relieved now..last shifts at work was brutal..12 hours straight with that scenario of me telling my GF the speach was eating me from the inside...

I know it`s for the better now, I was treating her more like a roomate than a lover lately...but I gotta say, when I stepped out of the door and she ran to me me to give one last hug and a kiss, and said she was going to miss me...I felt like dying, like the biggest peice of Sh*t in the world

Alex · September 25th, 2009, 10:10 PM

Hang in there, Remy. Sounds like you made the only decision you could.

Armored_Pig · September 25th, 2009, 11:26 PM

I had to do that once..

Time heals all--for both parties..

I usually keep communications to a minimum, ymmv..

Just hang in there man. If you know its going to end eventually, stringing someone else along is the worst thing to do--imho, you did the right thing..

AP

noche_caliente · September 26th, 2009, 10:37 AM

You did the right thing, but I know it was hard.

Hang in there. We're here to listen if you need to get more off your chest.

kkim · September 26th, 2009, 11:16 AM

It's difficult, but if you know it's for the best, better now, before you got married, than after... believe me.

Hang in there.

randomwalk101 · September 26th, 2009, 12:42 PM

oh man that sucks...but don't worry too much man. She'll be alright...

OldGuy · September 26th, 2009, 07:02 PM

Sorry to hear Remy I know how tough those decisions and moments can be. Look to the future and keep you head up. As Kim said we're here for you.

Strider · September 27th, 2009, 08:33 AM

Life is full of hard decisions, and you just made a really hard one ...
But hang in there Remy, we're here for you, you'll always have family here to support you

emt250 · September 27th, 2009, 05:56 PM

You'll both get through it. Be strong.

dakkerz · September 27th, 2009, 06:40 PM

I was in the exact same situation and just did the exact same thing 2 weeks ago. I broke up with my fiance of 3.5 years whom I lived with and completely broke her heart. It's been really tough going to outings with mutual friends and seeing her there and seeing how hurt she is.

I can't give you much advice yet on how to deal with it since I'm in the same boat, but keep your head up man.

Rayme · September 27th, 2009, 08:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dakkerz

I was in the exact same situation and just did the exact same thing 2 weeks ago. I broke up with my fiance of 3.5 years whom I lived with and completely broke her heart. It's been really tough going to outings with mutual friends and seeing her there and seeing how hurt she is.

I can't give you much advice yet on how to deal with it since I'm in the same boat, but keep your head up man.

Ill turn the boat and say to you, you probably did the right thing too

...

I talked to her today, and I'm pretty sure it's going to get better. But its still very bad for her right now..she pretty much insisted on talking to me a bit. It's hard. thx for reading.

OldGuy · September 27th, 2009, 08:12 PM

Remy - nothing wrong with talking. If at the end of this you can both come away with a better understanding of why it didn't work and a friendship then you can't ask for much more. Hand in there.

dakkerz · September 28th, 2009, 04:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rayme

Ill turn the boat and say to you, you probably did the right thing too

...

I talked to her today, and I'm pretty sure it's going to get better. But its still very bad for her right now..she pretty much insisted on talking to me a bit. It's hard. thx for reading.

Yeah one indication I KNEW I did the right thing was that I didn't feel heart broken over it all. I feel REALLY bad for breaking her heart, but at the same time I knew I wasn't happy and had to move on.

Yeah it's going to be hard at first. It was hard for us at first, because she had no where to go and had to stay at my house for a few days after we split until she could find a place to move to. I pretty much woke up every morning to her crying, but she's getting better and moving on as well. We're trying to stay friends, but we both know that we need to take it slow and minimize how much we talk because it still makes her emotional.

I'm glad you guys were able to talk and see that things will get better, it makes things a little easier. Like I said, keep your head up Remy and best of luck.

September 25th, 2009, 08:57 PM	#1
Rayme ninjette.org guru Name: Remy Location: Moncton Join Date: Apr 2009 Motorcycle(s): '04 sv650s Posts: 438	So I left my GF :( It`s about 1 am and half drunk..typing from the parent`s home on their old pentium 2, and I feel like emptying my heart out cause well I just went through my first real break-up in my life at 27 years old (I would classify my past relations as minor compared to this..). I`ve been with this girl for almost 3.5 years, we bought a house together..and since about some time ago, knew this wouldn`t end good, that it wasn`t how I liked it to be...so tonight I let the cat outta the bag. I feel like a monster ripping someone`s life appart like that, I know she was still in love with me, it was hard to go with the discussion..sharing a house and multiple common friend is just making it harder..but i got to keep telling myself it`s for the better and everybody goes through that. I`m somewhat relieved now..last shifts at work was brutal..12 hours straight with that scenario of me telling my GF the speach was eating me from the inside... I know it`s for the better now, I was treating her more like a roomate than a lover lately...but I gotta say, when I stepped out of the door and she ran to me me to give one last hug and a kiss, and said she was going to miss me...I felt like dying, like the biggest peice of Sh*t in the world __________________________________________________ There's 2 types of people in this world, those who complain and those who act.

September 25th, 2009, 10:10 PM	#2
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September 26th, 2009, 10:37 AM	#4
noche_caliente ninjette.org certified postwhore Name: Kim Location: mundo de ensueño Join Date: Nov 2008 Motorcycle(s): '08 250 Posts: A lot.	You did the right thing, but I know it was hard. Hang in there. We're here to listen if you need to get more off your chest. __________________________________________________ Progrip tank pad, blue rim stripes, blue Pazzos, Roaring Toyz lowering kit, Puig DB in dark smoke, Cortech sport tail, super mini tank, and saddlebags, OES swingarm spools and Intuitive frame sliders

September 26th, 2009, 07:02 PM	#7
OldGuy Live Life Name: Don Location: Lincoln, NE Join Date: Nov 2008 Motorcycle(s): 2009 Green SE Ninja 250 Posts: A lot.	Sorry to hear Remy I know how tough those decisions and moments can be. Look to the future and keep you head up. As Kim said we're here for you. __________________________________________________ - ATGATT - Scorpion EX700 Hi-Vis Helmet, First Gear MeshTek 3.0 Jacket, TourMaster Transition 2 Jacket and Flex Pants, Sidi Doha boots

September 27th, 2009, 08:33 AM	#8
Strider Back on the Black! Name: Alan Location: Gastonia, North Carolina Join Date: Jan 2009 Motorcycle(s): 2006 Kawasaki Ninja EX250 (Black) Posts: 831	Life is full of hard decisions, and you just made a really hard one ... But hang in there Remy, we're here for you, you'll always have family here to support you __________________________________________________ - - - - - - - - - - - - - - ATGATT 4EVER

September 25th, 2009, 11:26 PM	#3
Armored_Pig ninjette.org member Name: Joseph Location: Manassas, Va Join Date: Aug 2009 Motorcycle(s): 1996 Suzuki GS500 Posts: 10	I had to do that once.. Time heals all--for both parties.. I usually keep communications to a minimum, ymmv.. Just hang in there man. If you know its going to end eventually, stringing someone else along is the worst thing to do--imho, you did the right thing.. AP

September 26th, 2009, 11:16 AM	#5
kkim Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: Too much.	It's difficult, but if you know it's for the best, better now, before you got married, than after... believe me. Hang in there.

September 26th, 2009, 12:42 PM	#6
randomwalk101 self wrencher Name: john Location: houston Join Date: Dec 2008 Motorcycle(s): 08 250r and 07 600r Posts: A lot.	oh man that sucks...but don't worry too much man. She'll be alright...

September 27th, 2009, 05:56 PM	#9
emt250 2 Wheel Newb Name: Scott Location: Sacramento, CA Join Date: Jul 2009 Motorcycle(s): 2007 250r Posts: 218 Blog Entries: 1	You'll both get through it. Be strong. __________________________________________________ "Always remember, your mind is like a parachute. It works best when not being eaten by zombies" -Someone

September 27th, 2009, 06:40 PM	#10
dakkerz ninjette.org member Name: Dak Location: Florida - SRQ Join Date: Jun 2009 Motorcycle(s): 2009 250r Posts: 16	I was in the exact same situation and just did the exact same thing 2 weeks ago. I broke up with my fiance of 3.5 years whom I lived with and completely broke her heart. It's been really tough going to outings with mutual friends and seeing her there and seeing how hurt she is. I can't give you much advice yet on how to deal with it since I'm in the same boat, but keep your head up man.

September 27th, 2009, 08:12 PM	#12
OldGuy Live Life Name: Don Location: Lincoln, NE Join Date: Nov 2008 Motorcycle(s): 2009 Green SE Ninja 250 Posts: A lot.	Remy - nothing wrong with talking. If at the end of this you can both come away with a better understanding of why it didn't work and a friendship then you can't ask for much more. Hand in there. __________________________________________________ - ATGATT - Scorpion EX700 Hi-Vis Helmet, First Gear MeshTek 3.0 Jacket, TourMaster Transition 2 Jacket and Flex Pants, Sidi Doha boots

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