should i feel guilty? - Page 2

Johnnyscoots · October 31st, 2011, 11:28 PM

Howdy Leo:

I reread the post, and I somehow missed "stepson" the first time. Don't feel guilty about the Ninjette (can I get an "Amen" from all the Ninjetteers???), especially if you've gone and bought a vehicle for someone else's responsibility. As I approach my 42nd year and look forward to marriage and having kids (May, 2012 is our target month) it burns to see someone like you step up and try to take care of a child, even if he is not your own, and get basically punked out like that. Who are those people to tell you how to spend your money? You bought the SUV for the convenience of the baby, not THEM. I seem to smell something fishy going on here...it seems like they are more concerned about what's in it for them, and they are using the baby as a guilt trip to make you buy something more appropriate for their tastes. THEY are not your responsibility, but you stepped up to do something selfless and for the baby. As many of the members here have so eloquently said, flip them the double bird and tell them to go **** off. Enjoy the Ninja!

Johnny

akima · November 1st, 2011, 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by leogutierrez17

Well it dosent really matter any more...she left me so she could "figure herself out".....(we wernt married fyi) ugh...

Did this just happen Leo? Sorry to hear it

nickjpass · November 1st, 2011, 07:27 AM

I'm sorry Leo...

FBNTH · November 1st, 2011, 10:48 AM

You did a really stand up thing. Not many guys would do what you did for a chick they aren't married to and with a kid who isn't theirs. From the sound of it, it seems she has some growing up to do. You went above and beyond and you should be proud of that.

greg737 · November 1st, 2011, 11:00 AM

In the words of John Paul Sartre, "Hell is other people."

alex.s · November 1st, 2011, 11:17 AM

you traded one two-seater for another two-seater. i see no issue...if anything you are being responsible for getting a high mileage vehicle

KawiKid860 · November 1st, 2011, 12:36 PM

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Well it dosent really matter any more...she left me so she could "figure herself out".....(we wernt married fyi) ugh...

Sorry to hear that man... Girls eh? It's probably for the better though..

Kerberos · November 1st, 2011, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by akima

Did this just happen Leo? Sorry to hear it

yep, just this past weekend

Kerberos · November 1st, 2011, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by KawiKid860

Sorry to hear that man... Girls eh? It's probably for the better though..

yea. her family was talking about me behind my back any whoo.

Kerberos · November 1st, 2011, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnnyscoots

Howdy Leo:

I reread the post, and I somehow missed "stepson" the first time. Don't feel guilty about the Ninjette (can I get an "Amen" from all the Ninjetteers???), especially if you've gone and bought a vehicle for someone else's responsibility. As I approach my 42nd year and look forward to marriage and having kids (May, 2012 is our target month) it burns to see someone like you step up and try to take care of a child, even if he is not your own, and get basically punked out like that. Who are those people to tell you how to spend your money? You bought the SUV for the convenience of the baby, not THEM. I seem to smell something fishy going on here...it seems like they are more concerned about what's in it for them, and they are using the baby as a guilt trip to make you buy something more appropriate for their tastes. THEY are not your responsibility, but you stepped up to do something selfless and for the baby. As many of the members here have so eloquently said, flip them the double bird and tell them to go **** off. Enjoy the Ninja!

Johnny

Thank you for your response. i really appreciate it. I did all that for the baby and her and she says i dont want to be there for the baby (she left me this past weekend) and says she wants to figure her self out...go figure..shoulda kept the s10..lol

Peanut_EOD · November 1st, 2011, 03:50 PM

I was gonna say "sell her and HER kid and buy more motorcycles" but she seems to have taken care of that. It sounds like you're better off without her. Don't worry, your Ninja's parents will never get between you and your bike.

ungluck · November 1st, 2011, 03:59 PM

100lbs of lime, hydrogen peroxide and heat/sun...no traces will be left.

Kerberos · November 1st, 2011, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by ungluck

100lbs of lime, hydrogen peroxide and heat/sun...no traces will be left.

In washington the sun does not exist, only rain lol

Kerberos · November 1st, 2011, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Peanut_EOD

I was gonna say "sell her and HER kid and buy more motorcycles" but she seems to have taken care of that. It sounds like you're better off without her. Don't worry, your Ninja's parents will never get between you and your bike.

i know. My ninja loves me

Locksmiff · November 2nd, 2011, 02:28 AM

Where has the father of the child been through all this ??. It sound harsh but my ex was somehting similar cared more about her mum and dad etc, I am glad the woman I married (been married for 14 years) after being with my ex for 7 years parents etc are dead and relos are drugo ****heads.

Kerberos · November 2nd, 2011, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Locksmiff

Where has the father of the child been through all this ??. It sound harsh but my ex was somehting similar cared more about her mum and dad etc, I am glad the woman I married (been married for 14 years) after being with my ex for 7 years parents etc are dead and relos are drugo ****heads.

she put a restraining order against him then all of a sudden she had him over to see his son. i think she left me for him cause she started acting weird after that visit

Peanut_EOD · November 2nd, 2011, 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by leogutierrez17

she put a restraining order against him then all of a sudden she had him over to see his son. i think she left me for him cause she started acting weird after that visit

Do I really need to say it?

rusninja · November 2nd, 2011, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by leogutierrez17

she put a restraining order against him then all of a sudden she had him over to see his son. i think she left me for him cause she started acting weird after that visit

Go find a single with no children woman and have your own child.

Live2ride · November 2nd, 2011, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by leogutierrez17

Well it dosent really matter any more...she left me so she could "figure herself out".....(we wernt married fyi) ugh...

Sorry to hear that, Leo. Generally speaking, if someone (or their family) makes a huge deal about stupid stuff such as this then maybe your better off not being in a relationship with them anyway. Best of luck.

Kerberos · November 2nd, 2011, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by rusninja

Go find a single with no children woman and have your own child.

i know i know. lol im just trying to make it through college. the right one will come when the time is right. until then. NINJA!!!! lol

JLinde1339 · November 2nd, 2011, 11:12 AM

Dude, how old are you? Finish up school, get your degree, get a kick ass job that you love, THEN worry about finding that girl with no kids. Trust me. Ask me how I know this...
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rusninja · November 2nd, 2011, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by leogutierrez17

i know i know. lol im just trying to make it through college. the right one will come when the time is right. until then. NINJA!!!! lol

yup ride that ninja!

haha

Heed · November 2nd, 2011, 11:56 AM

screw it. this could be the best thing that has ever happened to you

you are free now.

Lil_Green_Demon · November 2nd, 2011, 05:53 PM

This might sound f*cked up but I would take this as a win. Now you don't have to raise someone else's child nor deal with "in-laws" who act like you're supposed to do anything differently for someone else's child, you get what I'm saying?
Nothing wrong with raising a step-child but I do think it's problematic when you've only been with the girl for a short period of time.

One thing I do have to ask is did this girl not have her own vehicle?

Kerberos · November 2nd, 2011, 08:06 PM

For JLinde1339^^ im 20, im working on my BA in Comp Sci, and im not stressed about it. I miss her, miss the baby, but whats done is done and your right. Im young and got a lot to do before i settle down. Thanks for the input, i appreciate it.

For Heed^^ i know i know, i keep telling my self that. lol

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Originally Posted by Lil_Green_Demon

This might sound f*cked up but I would take this as a win. Now you don't have to raise someone else's child nor deal with "in-laws" who act like you're supposed to do anything differently for someone else's child, you get what I'm saying?
Nothing wrong with raising a step-child but I do think it's problematic when you've only been with the girl for a short period of time.

One thing I do have to ask is did this girl not have her own vehicle?

Its not ****ed up, i talked about this alot among my family because she had been seeing my family and its just embarrassing more then anything to be honest. Yea i miss her and yea your right about the child. I didnt/dont mind but it sounds like she wants the baby daddy in his life so whats done is done. And now, she dont have a car. Or licence. I WAS going to get her a car after her licence but thats the past. ...And im the bad guy..

nickjpass · November 2nd, 2011, 08:37 PM

@Leo, no offense to @Heed, but him (and I) are still young, therefore can't offer advice that we can back up. Just wanted to let you know.

Kerberos · November 2nd, 2011, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by nickjpass

@Leo, no offense to @Heed, but him (and I) are still young, therefore can't offer advice that we can back up. Just wanted to let you know.

and im only 20...btw. that is a nice mower. I only ran a couple shi**ty craftsman. The 90's model ford front loader...omg..sooo much fun. almost flipped it over lol going up a hill.

Heed · November 2nd, 2011, 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by nickjpass

@Leo, no offense to @Heed, but him (and I) are still young, therefore can't offer advice that we can back up. Just wanted to let you know.

lolwut?

I have plenty of advice I can backup.

Kerberos · November 2nd, 2011, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Heed

lolwut?

I have plenty of advice I can backup.

lol everyone callllmmm down...lol jk jk. Hay im only 20 and i got enough too much exp. lol thanks for the feedback btw.

bluesinorbit · November 2nd, 2011, 10:49 PM

Find yourself a real woman. Men and women, some people never really leave the nest, emotionally speaking. That's a decades worth of headache you don't need to burden yourself with.

Meanwhile, you should call them up and ask them to meet you out on their yard. When you see all of them lined up out on the grass, wheelie the **** out of the Ninja through their street.

October 31st, 2011, 11:28 PM	#41
Johnnyscoots Over 40 Ninjette Owner Name: John Location: Denver, Pa Join Date: May 2010 Motorcycle(s): 2008 Kawasaki VN900C (Black), 2009 Kawasaki Ninja 250R (Red/Two Bros. Slip on, 41 Tooth Rear Sprocket) Posts: 77	Howdy Leo: I reread the post, and I somehow missed "stepson" the first time. Don't feel guilty about the Ninjette (can I get an "Amen" from all the Ninjetteers???), especially if you've gone and bought a vehicle for someone else's responsibility. As I approach my 42nd year and look forward to marriage and having kids (May, 2012 is our target month) it burns to see someone like you step up and try to take care of a child, even if he is not your own, and get basically punked out like that. Who are those people to tell you how to spend your money? You bought the SUV for the convenience of the baby, not THEM. I seem to smell something fishy going on here...it seems like they are more concerned about what's in it for them, and they are using the baby as a guilt trip to make you buy something more appropriate for their tastes. THEY are not your responsibility, but you stepped up to do something selfless and for the baby. As many of the members here have so eloquently said, flip them the double bird and tell them to go **** off. Enjoy the Ninja! Johnny __________________________________________________ So Long, and Thanks for All The Fish! Vulcan 900 Custom: Cafe windscreen, OEM backrest and Lockable side cases!!!

November 1st, 2011, 07:27 AM	#43
nickjpass #squid Name: nickypoo Location: Five Guys Join Date: Jul 2011 Motorcycle(s): Track dedicated 2008 ZX6R Posts: A lot. MOTM - Jul '16	I'm sorry Leo... __________________________________________________

November 1st, 2011, 10:48 AM	#44
FBNTH ninjette.org member Name: Rick Location: Winter Park, Fl Join Date: Jul 2011 Motorcycle(s): None yet Posts: 64	You did a really stand up thing. Not many guys would do what you did for a chick they aren't married to and with a kid who isn't theirs. From the sound of it, it seems she has some growing up to do. You went above and beyond and you should be proud of that. __________________________________________________ Rick

November 1st, 2011, 11:17 AM	#46
alex.s wat Name: wat Location: tustin/long beach Join Date: Sep 2009 Motorcycle(s): wat Posts: Too much. Blog Entries: 5 MOTM - Oct '12, Feb '14	you traded one two-seater for another two-seater. i see no issue...if anything you are being responsible for getting a high mileage vehicle __________________________________________________

November 1st, 2011, 03:50 PM	#51
Peanut_EOD ninjette.org sage Name: Peanut Location: Senoia, GA Join Date: Feb 2011 Motorcycle(s): Green 2013 ZX-6R Posts: 723	I was gonna say "sell her and HER kid and buy more motorcycles" but she seems to have taken care of that. It sounds like you're better off without her. Don't worry, your Ninja's parents will never get between you and your bike. __________________________________________________ http://www.simplysurrealphotography....es/peanut2.png

November 1st, 2011, 11:00 AM	#45
greg737 - Name: - Location: - Join Date: May 2009 Motorcycle(s): - Posts: A lot.	In the words of John Paul Sartre, "Hell is other people."

November 1st, 2011, 03:59 PM	#52
ungluck sleeper Name: chris Location: Hawaii Join Date: Nov 2010 Motorcycle(s): '10 250r, '10 690 duke Posts: 558	100lbs of lime, hydrogen peroxide and heat/sun...no traces will be left. __________________________________________________ SauSponte

November 2nd, 2011, 02:28 AM	#55
Locksmiff ninjette.org member Name: Darryl Location: Brisbane, Australia Join Date: Dec 2008 Motorcycle(s): 2010 Ninja ZX-6R Posts: 211	Where has the father of the child been through all this ??. It sound harsh but my ex was somehting similar cared more about her mum and dad etc, I am glad the woman I married (been married for 14 years) after being with my ex for 7 years parents etc are dead and relos are drugo ****heads.

November 2nd, 2011, 11:12 AM	#61
JLinde1339 Fighterer in Training Name: Joshua Location: Schenectady, NY Join Date: Jul 2011 Motorcycle(s): 2001 Ninja 250R Posts: 316	Dude, how old are you? Finish up school, get your degree, get a kick ass job that you love, THEN worry about finding that girl with no kids. Trust me. Ask me how I know this... Posted via Mobile Device

November 2nd, 2011, 11:56 AM	#63
Heed ninjette.org certified postwhore Name: John Location: Illinois Join Date: Aug 2011 Motorcycle(s): None yet, yet. Posts: A lot.	screw it. this could be the best thing that has ever happened to you you are free now.

November 2nd, 2011, 05:53 PM	#64
Lil_Green_Demon Winging It In Life Name: Umar Location: SoCal Join Date: Aug 2011 Motorcycle(s): 2010 250R; 2011 250R (sold) Posts: A lot.	This might sound f*cked up but I would take this as a win. Now you don't have to raise someone else's child nor deal with "in-laws" who act like you're supposed to do anything differently for someone else's child, you get what I'm saying? Nothing wrong with raising a step-child but I do think it's problematic when you've only been with the girl for a short period of time. One thing I do have to ask is did this girl not have her own vehicle? __________________________________________________ 2011 Kawasaki Ninja 250R (Bought - Apr 22, 2011; Sold - Feb 17, 2015) 2010 Kawasaki Ninja 250R (Bought - May 01, 2017; Current)

November 2nd, 2011, 08:37 PM	#66
nickjpass #squid Name: nickypoo Location: Five Guys Join Date: Jul 2011 Motorcycle(s): Track dedicated 2008 ZX6R Posts: A lot. MOTM - Jul '16	@Leo, no offense to @Heed, but him (and I) are still young, therefore can't offer advice that we can back up. Just wanted to let you know. __________________________________________________

November 2nd, 2011, 10:49 PM	#70
bluesinorbit ninjette.org member Name: Joon Location: Orange County, CA Join Date: Feb 2011 Motorcycle(s): 2011 Ninja 250R Posts: 164	Find yourself a real woman. Men and women, some people never really leave the nest, emotionally speaking. That's a decades worth of headache you don't need to burden yourself with. Meanwhile, you should call them up and ask them to meet you out on their yard. When you see all of them lined up out on the grass, wheelie the **** out of the Ninja through their street.

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