May 24th, 2012, 03:01 PM | #1 |
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Will probably be single by sunday....
Serious issues in my relationship with her smoking weed and she is in Key West Florida on vacation without me..... And she wonders why I'm not commenting or "liking" anything on FB.... Wonder why, maybe because I should be there???? We've fought everyday since she's been down there and now she's saying when she gets back we need to re evaluate our relationship.... What a crock. I've done everything for that girl and this is how I get paid back for it... Anyone wanna buy a slightly used engagment set?
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May 24th, 2012, 03:34 PM | #2 |
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Any advice?
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May 24th, 2012, 03:43 PM | #3 |
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I know it's no help, but I'd feel the same as you. But either way, wait till she gets back, maybe she'll come to her senses then.
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May 24th, 2012, 03:52 PM | #4 |
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We've been fighting ever since she started smoking weed again. We were so happy before and she doesn't see that it's the weed thats making me upset and feeling like I'm worth less then it. She promised me when we first got together 1. She didn't need and wouldnt smoke weed again and 2. I'd be going with her this year to FL. She says her mom says it's a "girls trip" I jsut think when you're married or engaged you should do things as a family... Am I so wrong to feel that way? I'd never go to a tropical paradise and leave her behind....
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May 24th, 2012, 04:17 PM | #5 | |
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ummmm......What's the problem with smokin' some ganja? Are you against it on moral grounds?
From your two posts it sounds like : A. You're a little insecure about the weed thing.(I'm sure there is more to it but that's what I get from your post. B. You're a little jealous/pissed that she's on vacation having a good time and you're not. Quote:
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May 24th, 2012, 04:17 PM | #6 |
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Damn, if burning a little herb is that big of a problem for you, you already know the answer about the relationship.
Personally, I would have rather of deal with a hottie that burns than a flirt that drinks at any chance - ask me how I know that.... Never once have I woken up with an ugly chic after a night of burning a little bud.
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May 24th, 2012, 04:27 PM | #7 |
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Dude, I am sorry. Are you married, engaged, or just dating? I think that will change whatever advice anyone is able to give. Sorry if you have listed that somewhere and I just missed it.
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May 24th, 2012, 05:01 PM | #8 | |
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I am pissed she is on vacation... You don't go to a tropical paradise and don't take your other half... It jsut isn't fair.. I wouldn't do it I'd want to enjoy that time with the person I'm with then leave her at home while I'm out having fun.. It just isn't right. She can cut loose with the girls here at home she doesn't have to go to FL to cut loose. This is a vacation not jsut going out for a girls night...
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May 24th, 2012, 05:01 PM | #9 |
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May 24th, 2012, 05:04 PM | #10 | |
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May 24th, 2012, 05:06 PM | #11 |
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Hummm. Well, for what it's worth, it's good you are not married if your relationship is in serious trouble.
Just curious, how did you react when she said she was going to head to the Keys for the vacation? I assume she didn't just go without telling you, right? |
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May 24th, 2012, 05:11 PM | #12 | |
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In all seriousness, it sounds like you guys have some issues with communication. Maybe try to swallow your pride the next time you talk, explain to her that you care for her and you want to work things out when she returns. Perhaps suggest reading some books about communication and then talking about them. Or, you could see a counselor. If you are serious about doing these things and she rejects the ideas, then that is a serious indication that she does not want to work it out with you. I know this sucks, but it's probably for the best that you do a realistic self-assessment. Best of luck man! |
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May 24th, 2012, 05:13 PM | #13 | |
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May 24th, 2012, 05:25 PM | #15 |
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move on......
better women out there
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May 24th, 2012, 06:09 PM | #16 |
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Jeez...I kinda envy you for your 'troubles' (which aren't much btw, a lil' ganja and a vaca. ). I think it's time I went and caught me another one of those females to add some much needed drama and spice to my boring singular existence.
On a serious note though...good luck sorting sh!t out bro and I wish you two da best |
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May 24th, 2012, 06:31 PM | #17 | |
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I am all for you offering the idea of working it out and trying to work it out, but it seems like a GIGANTIC red flag if she says she'll choose smoking pot over you (her fiancé). If she honestly feels that way and is not prone to dramatic statements to elicit some kind of reaction out of you, I'd say you need to release this one out into the wild, focus on yourself (and your bike) for a while, and then go find a better match. The other option is to just go out and slay like 30-40 hood rats, which would probably make you feel better in the short term, provided you don't catch the gift that keeps on giving or the high five. Take it easy and let us know how it works out. |
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May 24th, 2012, 06:39 PM | #18 | |
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May 24th, 2012, 07:40 PM | #19 |
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man, i feel your pain. im going through a break up too. been with her for 8 years and engaged for 1....broke up as of this tuesday
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May 24th, 2012, 08:46 PM | #20 |
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Jon just wondering, you say you have kids, were you married once already? If so is there a chance that it ended pretty ugly and now you have a HUGE guard up? My wife somkes weed, and has since we have been together, (married 16 years this June) and I don't smoke weed and never will. But to her defence lets say if you were to meet her and she had just smoked, you would not be able to tell, and the couple of rules I put out there for her were, 1) If we are low on cash, no buying weed and 2) She is not to have any AT ALL on her possession when we are with the kids. And we seem to get along just fine that way.
As for your girl being away with her mom on vacation? What is wrong with that, I could see if she was away with 5 of her girlfriends, but her mom? And everyone needs some time apart or you could get really sick of one another really fast. Hope you were able to think things through and smooth it out with her tonight, if not I doubt you will be getting any of that great Oh I missed you so much sex when she gets home. Good luck bud, and I hope you can make the right decision, the right decision for you that is, not just try and keep her happy. |
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May 24th, 2012, 09:55 PM | #22 | |
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why did u break if u dont mind me asking?
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May 24th, 2012, 10:08 PM | #24 |
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First off, let me just say that I am absolutely no person that should be giving you advice on this thread (so I won't give any), since I'm only in college and have no clue what you're going through. Granted, I've had break-ups but I've never been engaged or anything.
That being said, I just wanted to say that I hope everything turns out well in the end. I hate reading about these stories... |
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May 24th, 2012, 11:20 PM | #25 |
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Holy crap dude!
Female point of view. Ignore the weed - you said you don't like it so keep saying it nicely and encourage her to stop. Keep trying. Not different from any other bad/good?? habits that bugs one person about another. People leaving dirty socks in the bathroom have been known to break up otherwise good relationships. Maybe some rules, not around me or the kids? You sound like you think she owes you something because you 'give' her stuff. We all do that for people we care about because we want to so you probably gave her stuff because you wanted to, not because she MADE you. Ignore the thought of who owes who what. Not worth your time. We don't keep tallies of what we have given or done for our friends so we shouldn't do that for people we claim to love. Forget the chores bit too, these days it's no ones job to do dishes or anything, it's will just find its own equilibrium in time. I hate vacuuming, my bigger half doesn't like cooking, no biggie right? we each do what we can. You're worried she's going to fool around on you?? Or flirt?? That's what it sounds like. I came from that world so I told my Bigger Half that it would take me years to trust him in that regard and he was fine with that..and yes it took years to finally relax and trust him and show him that kind of respect. Hated feeling that way but I couldn't help it so I was up front about it. Had to really work to get across that the worry and lack of trust was MY PROBLEM not something he did. Many women really HATE jealous behavior so if that's what you're really worried about, just tell her. When I was jealous that my then-bf was out having fun without me, it was really that I was worried about other things..now I know that my jealousy wasn't that HE might have a good time but more a reflection back at me - is she better looking, funnier, has more money, better in bed - GASP!! Yep all that crap. When I realized it, everything changed and now I WANT him (current HIM 19 years)to have the time of his life when he goes to a golf tourney or whatever. NOW he comes home and talks a mile a minute telling me all the stories of what went on, sharing the stories. If you and I were really good friends or brother and sister, you would WANT me to have a blast on a girly vacation right? So what would happen if you genuinely wished that for her and told her so? Nothing but good could come of it. If things just don't or can't work out, you need to figure out why the vacation bugged you so much and make sure it just a normal 'wish I was there' otherwise, your next relationship may have the same little bugs to work out. Hold off on the ring until YOU are totally sure. Her needing to have a talk may only be a reflection of how differently you're reacting to her trip? If that sort of thing would always bug you, then get out now and tuck that away for future reference. I know it would bug me but a real vacation is few and far between for us so it would be a really big deal to share the experience. I always have the opportunity to go to England to visit my sister (Isle of Mann is so close!!) but I won't go until the Bigger Half can go, I'll find MY joy from seeing him experience things. There's a lot of great ladies out there so don't paint us all with the same brush and remember that your lady may be one of those since she's not doing anything evil or mean or cruel. Her Mom may have wanted a ladies thing for no other reason than because it's fun. Same for guys going fishing together etc. No secret agenda just being able to act like a tool around other people that understand? I don't know if my view gives you some ideas or not but I hope it helps in some way. Hang in there buddy an we\re hoping for the best for you. |
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May 24th, 2012, 11:42 PM | #27 |
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I read an article in class that proposed with some evidence that women married men for economic support and in return gave them sex. And yet prostitution is illegal -_- unless you film it
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May 24th, 2012, 11:43 PM | #28 |
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Kinda tells it like it WAS. Now that we can bring home the bacon, we don't need you but still want you around. Selfish creatures, eh?
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May 25th, 2012, 01:54 AM | #29 |
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Oh yeah, article was a study from the 50s, I thought I mentioned that lol
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May 25th, 2012, 02:58 AM | #30 |
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Here's another female point of view....
You are absolutely right (and within your right) to want her to stop smoking, namely your kids being the reason. Nevermind the fact that it's illegal (insert ) that alone would be a deal breaker for me. JMO As far as the vacation....I don't think that's a big deal to be honest. Girl trips are a must. Now if the two of you don't do anything outside of that with just the two of you, then I could see where you'd be concerned or upset. But I take trips with my girls at least twice a year. |
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May 25th, 2012, 11:52 AM | #31 |
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She told you her mom said you weren't invited? What kind of man are you? You both sound like you're still in junior high.
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May 25th, 2012, 11:58 AM | #32 |
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The trip was planned with her mother, I'm 34 she's 28... If everything gets straightened out i'm telling her next year we're doing things as a family.
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Don't disrespect me again.
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May 25th, 2012, 01:03 PM | #34 |
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Or what, you gonna threaten me over the internet, you mongoloid?
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May 25th, 2012, 01:06 PM | #35 |
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Nope as A man I'm telling you to act like a grown up and keep ur personal demeaning opinions to yourself. Give advice, don't disrespect. Don't you think I'm going through a hardf enough time with your personal attacks? Grow up, tt will help you later in life.
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May 25th, 2012, 01:18 PM | #36 |
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You put your personal problems on the internet WILLINGLY and you don't expect for some of the advice to not be, well, so useful? It's the internet, that's what happens on the internet. You get one good reply for every ten useless ones.
And I'll be honest with you, I thought you were about 20 or so based on your posts. No offense meant.
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drugs are bad M'kay?
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May 25th, 2012, 02:19 PM | #40 |
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She's in the keys on a pot smoking vacation with her mom (soon to be your mother in law)....
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