Decided to get public with a personal story of mine.

Mekkakat · January 16th, 2012, 12:22 PM

You guys have always been great, so I figured I could post this here. I'll copy/paste only because I'm at work, but recently I've started being a little more open about how I met my sister

http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comment...er_neither_of/

To start, a bit about my background. I was born both black and white, each side of my families being predominantly of one ethnicity only. My father's side of the family (white), was extremely horrible to us, especially my mother, and has always been very racist. My father was a bit of a troublemaker, and before I was even one year old, he was killed by two policemen in a prison.

So, that being said, I've never had a relationship with him or that part of the "family". (Despite many attempts by my mother to forgive them, which failed).

I grew up as an only child, to a single mother my whole life. I had always wanted a brother/sister, and envied my friends who did, especially the ones who took theirs for granted. We moved a lot when I was a kid, and I really didn't make any close friends until around high school.

In 2008, I got a message on Facebook around 11pm at night.
It asked me if my father's name was "____". - This was perplexing, because one, this was a stranger. Totally random name, person, etc, and two... well no one knew my dad or his name except my family...

After saying "yes... who is this, and how did you know that?", I received, "Well, because he's my father too... and I think I'm your sister."

We talked for hours, and quickly realized we had to meet. Her mother was only a teen when she was pregnant with my sister, and after finding out, never told our dad about having the baby. She put the baby up for adoption at birth, and my sister was raised many miles away in another city, along with another adopted child, her brother. My sister is about 6 years older than I, and has never been known of by anyone on either side of my family. She had found out she was adopted around 18, and after many years of searching, found HER mother.

She was/is a wreck. My sister was lucky to get the family she had. Her biological, although said mess, did lead her to some contacts on our father's side... this also went terribly. She met up with those folks a few years before meeting me, only to be almost cussed out, mocked, and rejected immediately. Before leaving though, one of them had gave her some pictures, one having a picture of my mom and our dad. My sister asked about this mysterious black woman, and found out that she had a child to our dad (me). She got my name and hers, and kept searching.

Years later... she finds me.

Here's the crazy part:

My sister and I look almost identical. Maybe not TWINS per-say, but everyone tells us how we look so alike. My mother cried when I told her the news, but almost passed out when she saw my sister in real life for the first time.

My sister and I went to college in the same city, for almost the same degrees (art), both play almost all the same musical instruments, and even dress alike.

We have almost identical personalities, senses of humor, taste in tv/music/movies. We even sound the same.

and finally:
My sister moved from the small town she was raised in, and lived in the city we both went to school at. We both lived in this city... THREE BLOCKS APART.... FOR YEARS. My kitchen window faced HER KITCHEN WINDOW, and to this day, I drive past either place and can barely fathom the odds.

My sister helped change my life. I got not only a sister, but a best friend. We hung out almost every day, and even lived together after meeting, oh and better yet, she has two kids. I'm an uncle

The boys, her mom and dad, and obviously her have helped my have a full family, and it's something I've always wanted.

Gorilla25 · January 16th, 2012, 12:38 PM

Im happy for you, man...its pretty cool how things worked out.

Mekkakat · January 16th, 2012, 12:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gorilla25

Im happy for you, man...its pretty cool how things worked out.

Thanks man, I really appreciate you reading my story

Havok · January 16th, 2012, 12:46 PM

What a very sweet story, I am glad that you feel whole now and that you have the relationship you always wanted. That you guys were so close yet didn't know shows that you were destined to be a part of eachothers lives.

Mekkakat · January 16th, 2012, 12:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Havok

What a very sweet story, I am glad that you feel whole now and that you have the relationship you always wanted. That you guys were so close yet didn't know shows that you were destined to be a part of eachothers lives.

Thank you, and thank you for reading!

massacremasses · January 16th, 2012, 12:52 PM

good stuff

Mekkakat · January 16th, 2012, 12:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by massacremasses

good stuff

thanks man!

Gorilla25 · January 16th, 2012, 01:06 PM

to me, family is extremely important. any story about connecting with family after broken connections are a read worth reading no matter how long. once again, im extremely glad you finally got to meet your sister.

Alex · January 16th, 2012, 03:20 PM

Nice!

Lil_Green_Demon · January 17th, 2012, 06:04 PM

Very good read. Thanks for sharing, OP.

I'm honestly glad things worked out for you.

alex.s · January 17th, 2012, 06:34 PM

tl;dr

USMCEvan · January 17th, 2012, 08:00 PM

Wow, dude, freaking amazing! Read a bunch of the comments on Reddit, too - not the support I would expect from a place like that, but awesome!

NDspd · January 18th, 2012, 05:00 AM

it's crazy how the world works, glad you could reunite with your sister! Me being an only child, there are some times I wished I had siblings.

coondog · January 19th, 2012, 11:24 AM

I have 4 siblings and 17 nieces and nephews. Don't know a one of them. I was a mistake and am much younger than the next oldest (a generation even). I'm the Ghost Brother/Uncle from what I've gathered, now handling my parents affairs, which does nothing in trying to endear myself to others.

With everything I've nothing, from nothing you've everything. God bless and keep you all brother, rub it in.

Mekkakat · January 19th, 2012, 11:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by coondog

I have 4 siblings and 17 nieces and nephews. Don't know a one of them. I was a mistake and am much younger than the next oldest (a generation even). I'm the Ghost Brother/Uncle from what I've gathered, now handling my parents affairs, which does nothing in trying to endear myself to others.

With everything I've nothing, from nothing you've everything. God bless and keep you all brother, rub it in.

thanks a lot, and thank you to all of you who read and commented. I really appreciate it guys

Heed · January 20th, 2012, 02:13 AM

that's gotta be weird man, but really cool. makes u wonder

csmith12 · January 20th, 2012, 02:49 PM

Amazing how small the world really is when you look through a window. Congratz to you both and be thankful for the time you share.

January 16th, 2012, 12:22 PM	#1
Mekkakat Eternal Noob Name: Chase Location: Pittsburgh PA Join Date: Feb 2011 Motorcycle(s): "Blanka" 07' Ninja 250 Posts: 247	Decided to get public with a personal story of mine. You guys have always been great, so I figured I could post this here. I'll copy/paste only because I'm at work, but recently I've started being a little more open about how I met my sister http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comment...er_neither_of/ To start, a bit about my background. I was born both black and white, each side of my families being predominantly of one ethnicity only. My father's side of the family (white), was extremely horrible to us, especially my mother, and has always been very racist. My father was a bit of a troublemaker, and before I was even one year old, he was killed by two policemen in a prison. So, that being said, I've never had a relationship with him or that part of the "family". (Despite many attempts by my mother to forgive them, which failed). I grew up as an only child, to a single mother my whole life. I had always wanted a brother/sister, and envied my friends who did, especially the ones who took theirs for granted. We moved a lot when I was a kid, and I really didn't make any close friends until around high school. In 2008, I got a message on Facebook around 11pm at night. It asked me if my father's name was "____". - This was perplexing, because one, this was a stranger. Totally random name, person, etc, and two... well no one knew my dad or his name except my family... After saying "yes... who is this, and how did you know that?", I received, "Well, because he's my father too... and I think I'm your sister." We talked for hours, and quickly realized we had to meet. Her mother was only a teen when she was pregnant with my sister, and after finding out, never told our dad about having the baby. She put the baby up for adoption at birth, and my sister was raised many miles away in another city, along with another adopted child, her brother. My sister is about 6 years older than I, and has never been known of by anyone on either side of my family. She had found out she was adopted around 18, and after many years of searching, found HER mother. She was/is a wreck. My sister was lucky to get the family she had. Her biological, although said mess, did lead her to some contacts on our father's side... this also went terribly. She met up with those folks a few years before meeting me, only to be almost cussed out, mocked, and rejected immediately. Before leaving though, one of them had gave her some pictures, one having a picture of my mom and our dad. My sister asked about this mysterious black woman, and found out that she had a child to our dad (me). She got my name and hers, and kept searching. Years later... she finds me. Here's the crazy part: My sister and I look almost identical. Maybe not TWINS per-say, but everyone tells us how we look so alike. My mother cried when I told her the news, but almost passed out when she saw my sister in real life for the first time. My sister and I went to college in the same city, for almost the same degrees (art), both play almost all the same musical instruments, and even dress alike. We have almost identical personalities, senses of humor, taste in tv/music/movies. We even sound the same. and finally: My sister moved from the small town she was raised in, and lived in the city we both went to school at. We both lived in this city... THREE BLOCKS APART.... FOR YEARS. My kitchen window faced HER KITCHEN WINDOW, and to this day, I drive past either place and can barely fathom the odds. My sister helped change my life. I got not only a sister, but a best friend. We hung out almost every day, and even lived together after meeting, oh and better yet, she has two kids. I'm an uncle The boys, her mom and dad, and obviously her have helped my have a full family, and it's something I've always wanted. __________________________________________________

January 16th, 2012, 12:52 PM	#6
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January 16th, 2012, 03:20 PM	#9
Alex ninjette.org dude Name: 1 guess :-) Location: SF Bay Area Join Date: Jun 2008 Motorcycle(s): '13 Ninja 300 (white, the fastest color!), '13 R1200RT, '14 CRF250L, '12 TT-R125LE Posts: Too much. Blog Entries: 7	Nice! __________________________________________________ Montgomery Street Motorcycle Club / cal24.com / crf250l.org / ninjette.org ninjette.org Terms of Service Shopping for motorcycle parts or equipment? Come here first. The friendliest Ninja 250R/300/400 forum on the internet! (especially Unregistered)

January 17th, 2012, 06:04 PM	#10
Lil_Green_Demon Winging It In Life Name: Umar Location: SoCal Join Date: Aug 2011 Motorcycle(s): 2010 250R; 2011 250R (sold) Posts: A lot.	Very good read. Thanks for sharing, OP. I'm honestly glad things worked out for you. __________________________________________________ 2011 Kawasaki Ninja 250R (Bought - Apr 22, 2011; Sold - Feb 17, 2015) 2010 Kawasaki Ninja 250R (Bought - May 01, 2017; Current)

January 17th, 2012, 06:34 PM	#11
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January 16th, 2012, 12:38 PM	#2
Gorilla25 Dakine... Name: AJ Location: DFW Join Date: Jun 2011 Motorcycle(s): 2009 Ninja 250R (Sold) \| 636 (hopefully soon) Posts: A lot. Blog Entries: 5	Im happy for you, man...its pretty cool how things worked out.

January 16th, 2012, 12:46 PM	#4
Havok Internet Slut Name: Jeff Location: L.A. Join Date: Sep 2010 Motorcycle(s): 04 FZ1, 07 FZ6 Posts: A lot.	What a very sweet story, I am glad that you feel whole now and that you have the relationship you always wanted. That you guys were so close yet didn't know shows that you were destined to be a part of eachothers lives.

January 16th, 2012, 01:06 PM	#8
Gorilla25 Dakine... Name: AJ Location: DFW Join Date: Jun 2011 Motorcycle(s): 2009 Ninja 250R (Sold) \| 636 (hopefully soon) Posts: A lot. Blog Entries: 5	to me, family is extremely important. any story about connecting with family after broken connections are a read worth reading no matter how long. once again, im extremely glad you finally got to meet your sister.

January 17th, 2012, 08:00 PM	#12
USMCEvan Crashing is just practice Name: Evan Location: Long Beach, CA Join Date: Jun 2011 Motorcycle(s): 2009 Ninja ex250 (Tinkerbell); 2008 Ninja ex250 (Frankenstein) Posts: 101	Wow, dude, freaking amazing! Read a bunch of the comments on Reddit, too - not the support I would expect from a place like that, but awesome! __________________________________________________ SEMPER FI ~UNSTOPPABLE~ Kawasaki - Green means GO!

January 18th, 2012, 05:00 AM	#13
NDspd 1/4 English, 3/4 Kick Ass Name: Jeremy Location: Dayton, OH Join Date: Sep 2011 Motorcycle(s): 2002 Triumph Speed Triple 955i, '05 Suzuki SV650S(retired), '11 Ninja 250R(sold) Posts: A lot.	it's crazy how the world works, glad you could reunite with your sister! Me being an only child, there are some times I wished I had siblings.

January 19th, 2012, 11:24 AM	#14
coondog ninjette.org sage Name: john Location: Palm Beach County, Fl Sligo County, Eire Join Date: Dec 2010 Motorcycle(s): 2005 ninja 250 street fighter, 2008 street fighter ninja 500, 2001 nsr 125 Posts: 812	I have 4 siblings and 17 nieces and nephews. Don't know a one of them. I was a mistake and am much younger than the next oldest (a generation even). I'm the Ghost Brother/Uncle from what I've gathered, now handling my parents affairs, which does nothing in trying to endear myself to others. With everything I've nothing, from nothing you've everything. God bless and keep you all brother, rub it in.

January 20th, 2012, 02:13 AM	#16
Heed ninjette.org certified postwhore Name: John Location: Illinois Join Date: Aug 2011 Motorcycle(s): None yet, yet. Posts: A lot.	that's gotta be weird man, but really cool. makes u wonder __________________________________________________ The Rush is Addictive

January 20th, 2012, 02:49 PM	#17
csmith12 The Corner Whisperer Name: Chris (aka Reactor) Location: Northern KY Join Date: May 2011 Motorcycle(s): 2010 250 (track), 1992 250, 2006 R6 (street/track), 2008 R6 (track) Posts: Too much. MOTY 2015, MOTM - Nov '12, Nov '13	Amazing how small the world really is when you look through a window. Congratz to you both and be thankful for the time you share. __________________________________________________ Goal: Shake A Million Hands \| Look through the corners \| Track Day Prep \| Closest track? \| The Mid-Ohio School

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